Dear Judge Mattison.
I am shaken by how difficult this letter is for me to write. I was told that you may need it
to better understand my little brother. I wish there was an ideal place to begin. But where
does one start when a loved one's life is laid across someone else's table?
What keeps me believing in him and loving him is the fact that he is a good person that
came from a good home. I feel silly writing that, because it seems so contradictory,
looking at what actually took place. However, it's the truth, and it keeps me alive. I wish
more than anything that you, the man who decides his fate, could know him like I do. So
a little bit of the Kip Kinkel that I know is where I will begin.
Growing up with him was very average. I was the typical big sister, and he seemed like
every other little brother I had ever had any contact with. only with hindsight do I truly
see the signs of someone who was in desperate need of help, different help than any of us
knew how to give.
Kip was a very compassionate person. Like my mother, the norm for him was to put
others first. He absolutely loved animals and treated them better than most. He was a
people pleaser. He found ways to learn what those around him wanted and made every
effort to become it. I believe that is how he dealt with his illness so well and with such
subtlety for so long.
He was genuinely concerned about the same issues kids his age are, and unusually
devoted to those that meant something extra special to him. When asked about his
interests and opinions, he was able to rationally explain his ideas about them in ways far
beyond those which someone his age would be capable of. He was very likeable and had
a great sense of humor. He loved to make people laugh and did it well. My mother and I
used to say that he would be a wonderful boyfriend because of his sensitivity and his
devotion to what he loved. Kip had a lot of potential, and to see that die absolutely
crushes me.
That is who I remember Kip to be, and let me tell you about who he is today. He's
extremely bright, and the potential I mentioned before is still there, buried inside. He is
hurting more than any of us can imagine, and yet is adapting to an extremely unpleasant
situation better than most ever could. He is polite and considerate to those that have
contact with him. He is realistic about his situation, yet remains hopeful that he will find
something positive in it.
He does have plans for the future and has discussed with me his ideas of becoming a
productive member of society, even from behind bars. All of his hopes and dreams have
to do with getting an education and using it to help people without one. He already has
passed the GED with very high scores.
I believe what he needs is the hope that he has a chance of achieving these goals. My first
visit with him after this happened was at Skipworth and consisted of only crying. It took